Post#9 » Tue Dec 24, 2013 2:25 am
Questions of whether it's just or morally sound are for the magician to deal with alone. The spirit may or may not act on your behalf and as with every single choice we make in life, we create patterns as we go.
The person in question sounds like a shit head. You're responsible for your own emotional well-being and happiness and that trumps their need to fuck with you.
(BTW contrary to suggestions in this thread, there is no binding of the various angelic beings within the NAP. Binding angels is seriously fucked and damages the entity energetically. It's also pretty heavy magic and is not in the NAP)
We could have a separate discussion on the energetic effects on the person who essentially creates a new life path for another person and we can talk about the possibilities of the unintentional extension of emotional ties to the other person...but that's most often in cases where there's already an emotional toll.
All of these are valid things to consider, not from a moral perspective but from a technical and cost to benefit perspective...but they are a another conversation entirely.
Don't try to do the spirits job. It'll do what it needs to do. Sometimes the more specific the magician gets with instructions the more the spirit is restricted in its ability to act.
I've had great success with my own very specific, prescriptive curses. But the instructions were not restricting the work in anyway.
I could be wrong, but your concern about how aggressive this working will be, and the part where you mention there's a reason why you simply can't detach entirely from this person, would seem to be your real problem and perhaps your answer?
As well as this magical working, put some real world effort and thought into being able to detach completely from this person. It's your life and you are in control of who or what is a part of it regardless of how you rationalise it. People get divorced, breakup, end friendships, quit jobs etc for this exact reason. I'm yet to hear a valid reason for keeping toxic fucks like this person around you to the point of needing to use magic to keep them in check.
Do the curse and work on getting free.